Mastering these 2 things transformed my dating life

I used struggle to truly understand what to focus on in order to improve my dating life.

We’re often told to improve our looks, make more money, be more confident, get better pictures, and it’s extremely confusing

Because there are so many potential inputs to improve, it’s impossible to know which to focus on and hence you try to do a bit of everything and end up with nothing.

So what I have done is come up with a simple framework to categorise different potential inputs that you can improve which will generate the biggest increase in the output which is your dating life

It’s called minimizers and maximizers.

Let’s start with minimizers – these are things you don’t need to be in the top 10 percentile, just avoid being in the bottom 10 or 20 percentile.

For example – yours looks is a minimizer. If you are in the bottom 10 percentile and are heavily disfigured or extremely overweight, you should probably fix it.

But most guys are just average looking which is completely fine and there is no reason to try to be a Greek looking god and be in the top 10 percentile because that’s not what’s going to get you your dream women.

So don’t waste your precious time trying to become some sort of bodybuilder in the gym – it won’t matter.

(obviously if you like working out and being a body builder that’s completely fine but it’s not a requirement for a successful dating life)

Money is another minimizers. If you’re homeless and live on the street – take care of that first.

But don’t make the mistake thinking you need to make billions of dollars to date your dream women.

Just look Jeff Bezos – the founder of Amazon – the women he has dated are not that conventionally attractive.

With minimizers, you’re simply trying to minimise the downside but it’s perfectly okay to be average.

Minimizers won’t get you the women – maximizers will.

So what are maximizers? Maximizers are things you want to be in the top 10 or even top 1 percentile of men because maximising these things will yield exponential returns to your dating life.

These are the things you should focus on the most. Let me give you 2 examples of maximizers.

One example is your confidence. There are not many things that are more attractive in a person than their confidence. Women (and people in general) are naturally drawn to those who exude self-assurance and believe in themselves.

And with confidence there are 2 types – situational confidence which depends on a situation you’re in.

As a coder you might be confident when making a project but if I put you on stage to sing, you probably won’t be that confident.

And then there’s core confidence which does not depend on situation or context. You’re just confident no matter where you go and where you are – that you are enough. This is one of the things you must maximise in order to dramatically improve your dating life.

Another maximizer is your ability to flirt. Most people are not good in social skills and communication.

And there are even less men who know how to flirt properly.

I want you to show me a guy that is extremely good at flirting and doesn’t get attention from women – that doesn’t happen.

And most men are terrible at flirting. They go around telling girls “You’re beautiful”, obviously going nowhere and thinking that this flirting stuff doesn’t work. But that’s not flirting.

Flirting is the language of romance and if you can learn how to flirt properly, you will be able to stand out from seas of men out there who are desperate, plain and boring.

This is something that you will want to maximise on your journey to improving your dating life.

So to summarize – take care of the minimizers like your looks, money, grooming etc but don’t obsess over them – these won’t be the reasons why women choose you.

Especially the women you truly want. If you’re an average looking with an average salary that’s perfectly fine.

Instead focus on the maximizers. Become insanely confident in yourself and a master at social skills and flirting and you will never struggle in dating ever again.

P.S. If you have more questions about this or just want to talk – I’m always available in DM. Don’t struggle alone

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